Episodes

Tony and Julie return from a hiatus to discuss the concepts of fibbing, emotional maturity, and narcissistic traits in individuals with ADHD. They delve into the science behind the fight, flight, freeze, or fib response, examining how fibbing serves as a self-preservation strategy. They highlight the importance of authenticity and sharing true selves to foster a sense of belonging. Using real-life examples and referencing expert insights, they encourage acceptance and emotional growth in managin...

Tony and Julie welcome the 2024 American Ninja Warrior Women’s Champion, Addy Herman, to “Love, ADHD!” They discuss her journey with ADHD and how it's played a pivotal role in her training, competitive mindset, and personal growth. Addy shares insights into the challenges and triumphs of the American Ninja Warrior course, her battle with perfectionism, and how her ADHD diagnosis came as a turning point in her life. Addy emphasizes the importance of finding identity outside achievements and recog...

Julie Lee and Tony Overbay, LMFT, scrap an episode they were planning on and instead get personal about their experiences and thoughts surrounding ADHD, medication, and handling societal perceptions. They share personal anecdotes related to the challenges of ADHD medication, including shortages, dosage adjustments, and the stigma attached to taking medication. They touch upon the impact of medication on daily functioning and quality of life, exploring the complexities of treatment options, inclu...

In this week's episode, Julie engages in a candid and enlightening conversation with her close friend, Lindsey Harris. Lindsey is a school counselor who works with children diagnosed with ADHD and a parenting educator who helps parents navigate the experience. Lindsey, drawing from her expertise in counseling children with ADHD, offers valuable insights and practical advice throughout the conversation. Their conversation is filled with empathy, humor, and mutual understanding, creating a safe ...

Tony and Julie engage in a candid and illuminating discussion about ADHD, particularly focusing on its implications for parenting. They share personal anecdotes and explore how ADHD can affect children's behaviors, such as inattentiveness, hyperactivity, and impulsivity. The conversation includes insights on the genetic aspect of ADHD, the importance of education for parents, and approaches for managing and supporting children with ADHD effectively. It also touches on the therapeutic aspects of ...

Julie and Tony revisit the topic of “executive functioning” and explore what embracing “executive dysfunction” looks like. They discuss how individuals with ADHD know what tools they should be using to organize their lives; they struggle with executing these tasks consistently. They discuss strategies like externalizing to-do lists, setting up automatic payments, using password managers, and making processes enjoyable to combat inconsistency. They continue to advocate for acceptance and the crea...

Join Julie and Tony in 'Love ADHD' Episode 17 (and a half, due to earlier technical issues) as they discuss the balance between structure and flexibility in their lives, their experiences with self-imposed structures, and how they're gradually transitioning to a more mindful approach to life. They mention their struggles with interactions, miscommunications, time management, and even their physical appearances. They reveal how setbacks are opportunities for self-discovery and share their growing...

Julie and Tony delve into the understanding provided by the book 'ADHD 2.0' and compare adult ADHD to a Ferrari engine with bicycle-strength brakes. They discuss learning to work with this energy and attention rather than attempting to control it. The paradoxical nature of ADHD is also explored - with traits often exhibiting as extremes in impulsive behaviors, punctuality, cleanliness, and emotional responses. The dialogue further touches on topics of rejection sensitivity and taking ownership o...

Tony takes the reins solo in this episode as he returns the favor of Julie hosting last week. Tony explains Julie’s quote of him saying, “Kids are little narcissists,” and talks about ego-syntonic vs. ego-dystonic behaviors in children. He then shares the importance of positive connections, the effects of childhood trauma on adult health, the impact of ADHD on familial relationships, and more. Listening to this episode will also reveal the correlation between behavioral issues and emotional imma...

Julie goes solo in this episode and reflects on the role of labels, particularly ADHD, and how to understand them better. She emphasizes viewing ADHD as a context, not a cause for certain behaviors. She shares personal experiences and thoughts about emotional immaturity, the development of narcissistic tendencies, and self-compassion. With an encouraging note, she reminds listeners that learning about ADHD is a journey of self-discovery and understanding that leads to greater success and fulfill...

Julie and Tony pick up where last week’s episode left off and continue their discussion of the parallels between Julie's children's book, 'Broccolipunzle,' and elements of ADHD. They focus on emotional acceptance, especially regarding rejection sensitivity specific to ADHD. Tony deep-dives into ADHD, neurology, and society's discomfort with negative emotions, highlighting the importance of self-acceptance and embracing uniqueness. Julie believes that all our differences make us powerful and emph...

Julie and Tony discuss the intriguing parallels between Julie's children's book, 'Broccolipunzle,' and elements of ADHD. They explore themes like anticipatory rejection and rejection sensitivity, maintaining a positive outlook on uniqueness and resilience. The hosts also touch on various aspects of ADHD, interpretations of experiences, and the importance of accepting each other's differing perspectives. The book forms a metaphor for issues people with ADHD often face, such as trying to fit into ...

In the 11th episode of Love ADHD, Tony Overbay, LMFT, and Julie Lee are joined by a special guest, Mackey Overbay, a licensed cosmetologist and host of “The Mind, The Mirror and Me” podcast, to talk about the differences and the similarities between ADHD and anxiety. They also share personal experiences, debating if conditions like sleep, focus, bowel problems, or muscle tension relate more to ADHD or anxiety. The discussion underscores the importance of understanding one's symptoms and getting ...

Have you ever considered the unique gifts that come with ADHD? In Episode 10 of "Love, ADHD," hosts Tony and Julie engage in a fascinating discussion about finding gratitude amidst the whirlwind of ADHD. This episode isn't just about the challenges; it's a celebration of the unexpected benefits and strengths that ADHD can bring into our lives. The conversation starts with a light-hearted reflection on reaching their 10th episode, and Tony begins a new tradition in sharing the story of the “Peac...

Have you ever wondered if labeling someone, especially with a diagnosis like ADHD, does more good than harm? Or could it be a bit of both? Dive into Episode 9 of "Love, ADHD" with hosts Julie and Tony as they embark on a thought-provoking journey into the world of labels. This episode isn't just about ADHD; it's a broader exploration of the impact of labeling on our lives and society. Join Julie and Tony as they share their personal experiences and insights on how labels like ADHD have shaped t...

Why does it seem like everyone is getting an ADHD diagnosis these days? Dive into the latest episode of "Love, ADHD" with Tony and Julie, where we tackle this burning question head-on! In a world where ADHD diagnoses are on the rise, we explore whether this reflects a real increase in ADHD cases or if we're just getting better at recognizing it. From the evolution of ADHD medication to the impact of environmental factors, this episode is a treasure trove of insights! Join us as we delve into th...

Have you ever put your keys down and five minutes later had no idea where they were? Or have you ever felt like you were riding the emotional rollercoaster without a seatbelt? In the latest episode of "Love, ADHD," Julie and Tony unpack these relatable moments and explore the less-talked-about side of ADHD: emotional dysregulation. It's not all about forgetfulness or hyperfocus; it's also about the intense waves of emotion that can catch you off guard. Julie candidly shares her journey through d...

Do you ever find yourself entranced by the scent of fresh-baked cookies a little more than most? Or maybe you're someone who feels on edge because of certain textures or loud noises? If so, you will want to tune into this eye-opening episode of "Love, ADHD" with your hosts, Julie Lee and Tony Overbay. In this episode, they dive deep into the world of sensory sensitivities, an often overlooked aspect of ADHD that can seriously impact daily life. Julie, a former second-grade teacher, talks about h...

In Episode 5 of "Love, ADHD," Tony and Julie touch on the 3rd of 5 things that you didn't know you didn't know about ADHD: the ability to hyperfocus and, more specifically, the paradoxical nature of ADHD. The hosts take listeners on a rollercoaster of relatable experiences and insights as they share their own journeys with ADHD. From Julie's frustration with new technology to Tony's reflections on how ADHD embodies paradoxes—such as a lack of focus combined with the ability to hyperfocus—they of...

In Episode 4 of "Love ADHD," hosts Julie and Tony dive deep into the emotional whirlpool of rejection sensitivity and Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD). Starting off with a light-hearted chat about Julie's new hair extensions and the therapeutic power of humor, the conversation takes an emotional turn, touching on personal losses and how RSD impacts emotional responses. They also delve into the intensity of emotions triggered by rejection, while Julie shares personal anecdotes on how this has ...

In episode three of Love, ADHD, Tony, and Julie tackle the complexities of executive functioning challenges, going beyond mere distractions. They delve into issues like task organization, prioritization, time management, and the struggle to start and finish tasks. The podcast explores paradoxes like hyper-focus and distractions in project completion. Acceptance and commitment therapy are highlighted for normalizing certain behaviors. The episode emphasizes the importance of understanding a...

In this episode, Julie and Tony delve into Julie's personal experience with ADHD. She candidly shares her journey, beginning with her lack of awareness about ADHD and culminating in her diagnosis at the age of 33. Throughout the discussion, they explore the profound impact of ADHD traits, such as impulsivity and sensitivity to criticism on various aspects of her life, shedding light on her challenges. However, Julie also shares a powerful narrative of beginning the journey of self-acceptance. L...

In this inaugural episode of "Love, ADHD - Where Genius and Scatter Meet," host Julie Lee interviews co-host Tony Overbay, LMFT, as he shares his personal story of discovering ADHD in his mid-40s. Julie also opens up about her recent diagnosis, revealing how it shed light on various aspects of her life, including her career and sensitivities to rejection. Tony shares his transformative experiences with Acceptance Commitment Therapy and Ritalin, pivotal in reframing his approach to ADHD. Together...

Jump headfirst into the world of ADHD with Tony Overbay, licensed marriage and family therapist, and Julie Lee, keynote speaker and author in the unprecedented podcast Love, ADHD. These co-hosts are two for two. They’re two friends, two decades apart, and both were diagnosed with ADHD as adults. With Tony’s clinical expertise in the field of mental health and Julie’s work cultivating human connection within communities, they take listeners on a journey that fuses humor, insight, and raw honesty....