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Tony Overbay, LMFT asks Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife the differences between doing traditional psychotherapy with clients vs. "Coaching" aka "Life Coaching" people. Dr. Finlayson-Fife recently launched a successful subscription-based podcast "Room for Two" where she leads couples through "Sex and Intimacy Coaching." You can learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife, including her…

As a practicing therapist, I just have to say that AJR gets it! I feel like I hear phrases, and questions from the lyrics of "Karma" on a daily basis in my office. Especially "I'm not sure why I booked today's appointment," (give us about 5 minutes and we'll find…

Tony Overbay, LMFT discusses Amy Morin, LCSW's article "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do." https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/what-mentally-strong-people-dont-do/201501/13-things-mentally-strong-people-dont-do Go to http://tonyoverbay.com/workshop to sign up for Tony’s “Magnetize Your Marriage” virtual workshop. The cost is only $19. You’ll learn the top 3 things you can do NOW to create a Magnetic Marriage. You…

From the Virtual Couch Podcast episode 326 Tony Overbay, LMFT shares his challenge in not repeating the same mistakes while acknowledging the challenges of ADHD. Tony talks about his experiences working with clients who embrace, or shy away from labels, and what he has done in embracing the label that…

Virtual Couch Podcast Episode 325 - Sometimes we don't realize how childhood trauma can show up in adulthood. Even the most supportive parents often tell children "not to worry about it," or "they didn't mean it," or "it's not that big of a deal." So it's not surprising that it…

The brain is a don't get killed device! There is a very good chance that there are people that you interact with on a daily basis who are beginning to or are already experiencing serious suicidal thoughts and ideations. But I believe if we are more aware of some of…

Faith Transition, Spiritual Trauma & Mental Health, An Evolving Conversation - By Tony Overbay, LMFT. Recorded May 3, 2021, in Salt Lake City, UT at the Generations Mental Health Conference 2021. Tony shares information on how to navigate a faith crisis using James Fowler's Stages of Faith, principles of Acceptance…

After working with well over 1,000 couples as a marriage therapist, Tony Overbay, LMFT, gives his top 11 tips to a happier marriage. If you are interested in learning more about the 4th round of Tony's "Magnetic Marriage" course, please visit http://tonyoverbay.com and send him an email through the contact…

Episode 303 of Tony Overbay LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast - Over time, many couples find themselves in a familiar pursue/withdrawal relationship. One partner may feel like they are doing everything in the relationship only at the expense of getting their own validation or needs met. Still, their partner often…

Tony interviews award-winning author and podcast host Suzanne Falter. They discuss the importance of self-care and the touching story of Suzanne's daughter Teal who passed away unexpectedly at a very young age. Teal shared some very powerful advice for how to make the most of life that continues to guide…

Episode 13 of Tony Overbay LMFT's "Waking up to Narcissism" podcast. Tony turns to his online group and asks for examples of what gift-giving looks like in a narcissistic relationship. He also tackles an email from someone waking up to their own narcissistic traits and tendencies. He also talks briefly…

Audio only for episode 7 of the Waking Up to Narcissism Podcast by Tony Overbay LMFT. Narcissistic tendencies or traits can come in many different forms and levels of severity, while as a mental health condition, there is currently only one diagnosis. Tony tackles the question of whether or not…

Episode 294 of Tony Overbay LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast. Tony explores why where the need for external validation comes from. Why do we care what others think? And why the need for external validation is the opposite thing to do for self-confidence and to feel connected to others. Introducing…

Episode 293 of Tony Overbay LMFT's The Virtual Couch podcast. Each of us is a unique mixture of life experiences, and we bring all of those experiences into our conversations with others. In today's episode, Tony explores the role of context in conversations. Tony shares an example of how one…

Procrastination creates a pretty fascinating feedback loop. For many of us, we procrastinate until a deadline, and then we perform. We may not be happy with our performance, but this pattern repeats itself over time until it's what we do! We receive a deadline of Friday at 5 PM and…

Narcissistic tendencies or traits can come in many different forms and levels of severity, while as a mental health condition, there is currently only one diagnosis. Tony tackles the question of whether or not we use the label of narcissism too broadly, and if we spoke more about what narcissistic…

Despite what you hear from the self-help world change takes time, so it is important to give yourself a little more grace. If beating yourself up was the key to success, then we'd all already be perfect! Tony shares his secrets on how to become unstuck, and why we continually…

Episode 287 of Tony Overbay LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast - Tony describes in detail how his "4 Pillars of a Connected Conversation" works, including how to apply the 4 Pillars in any conversation where you feel stuck, unheard, unseen, or unloved. The 4 Pillars are: 1) Assuming good intentions,…

Tony Overbay LMFT's Virtual Couch Episode 284. Tony welcomes his daughter McKinley (Mackie) back to The Virtual Couch. Mackie talks about what it took for her to shed the “shoulds” in her life, “you should go to college, you should be a teacher, you should, you should, you should!” and…

If you want to know what you need to do with your life, ask somebody close to you. Chances are they'll immediately have an opinion. But when they do share what they think YOU need to do with YOUR life, why do you immediately think of doing the opposite? Better…

Tony welcomes Magnetic Marriage co-creator Preston Pugmire, host of the Next Level Life Podcast, and award-winning life coach, onto the show to talk about the steps of accountability, and how moving from an unconscious reactor to a conscious creator will have immediate and long-lasting positive effects on everything in your…

Here's what my ADHD looks like during a simple trip to get a sandwich. The struggle is...wait, are those chips?

Episode 276 of Tony Overbay, LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast. Tony talks about the mental health and life lessons learned on a recent trip to Disneyland, including the brain’s fascination with anticipation vs. reward, the psychological importance of nostalgia, the “Coolidge Effect,”; how to “let go and play” (http://playtheory.org). Plus,…

Episode 275 of Tony Overbay LMFT's The VIrtual Couch Podcast - What do you do with those pesky unwanted, irrational, and sometimes downright inappropriate or scary thoughts? Hint - trying to stop them, push them away, or change them can often make them even stronger. Tony shares the "numbers" metaphor…