Tony Overbay, LMFT, and host of The Virtual Couch Podcast, describes the "person in a hole" metaphor. In the metaphor, you learn that sometimes, it doesn't matter how hard you try; if you're using the wrong tool in certain situations, you can actually make things worse! Learn more about Tony's…
Episode 266 of Tony Overbay LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast - Do you often find yourself feeling emotionally invested in other people, movies, and TV shows? Do you feel like you take on the emotional state of those around you? Have you been told repeatedly to “just get over it”…
Tony Overbay LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast Episode 261 - Everything you ever wanted to know about kindness can be learned from...rabbits. In today’s episode, Tony talks about kindness, and how Dr. Robert Nerem stumbled upon a most unusual example of how both our emotional and physical health can be…
Episode 254 of Tony Overbay LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast. Tony shares the foundational principles of Dr. Sue Johnson's Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT/EFCT) from her book "Hold Me Tight." Tony referenced a review from Dan's blog "A Laughing Soul" (https://alaughingsoul.wordpress.com/2012/04/24/hold-me-tight-seven-conversations-for-a-lifetime-of-love/). From the blog, what is EFT? What Is Emotionally…
Tony Overbay LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast Episode 253 - If You've EVER Been Angry This Episode Is For YOU! We all get angry, but what do you do with that anger? Is it healthy to express your anger? If so, in what way? Should you punch a pillow or…
Episode 252 of Tony Overbay, LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast - What impedes progress more...physical clutter or emotional clutter? Or is the answer “C, all of the above?” Tony interviews Anna, a professional home organizer and the owner of NEAT Method in Boise, ID. They talk about how organization can…
Episode 251 of Tony Overbay LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast. Do you ever find yourself caught up in emotions so fast that you feel like you can’t think logically? Well, the good news is, you’re human! For most of us, we formed much of our internal compass from our family,…
Episode 250 of Tony Overbay, LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast. In this episode, Tony tackles the touchy topic of anxiety and gives tips on what to do when you're feeling anxious. This episode of The Virtual Couch is sponsored by http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch With the continuing “sheltering” rules that are spreading across…
Tony Overbay, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, and host of the award-winning podcast The Virtual Couch, speaks to the Transitioning and Post Mormons of Sacramento (Mormon Spectrum: Sacramento) and Marriage On A Tightrope Facebook Group on how to navigate difficult conversations around faith journeys, transitions, boundaries, and more. To get…
Episode 249 of Tony Overbay LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast - Jessica Frew truly lives a BOLD life. She is an author (https://theboldlogic.com/free-book), podcast host of the very real, raw, and funny podcast Husband in Law that she hosts with her current husband Matt, as well as her ex-husband Steve.…
Episode 247 of Tony Overbay LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast - Tony shows how putting the 4 Pillars of a Connected Conversation, one of the key components of his Magnetic Marriage Course (http://tonyoverbay.com/magnetic) together with your abandonment and attachment programming from childhood can create a pretty incredible conversation, relationship...and birthday!…
Tony Overbay, licensed marriage and family therapist, and host of The Virtual Couch Podcast, describes a particular session where the couple both expressed different views on trust that may seem radically different...but, based on their own experiences are both correct. Are you having curious conversations with your spouse or are…
Do you want to know what's worse than divorce? How about running a daycare with someone you used to date and calling that a marriage? Do you feel like you and your spouse are more ROOMMATES instead of lovers! Have you ever thought: "Is the spark fading?", "It's getting harder…
I've been a therapist for over 15 years, I've worked with thousands of individuals and over a thousand couples, and what I'm going to share with you today has been an absolute game-changer for me in my personal life, as well as in my practice. Let's talk about abandonment and…
Episode 236 of Tony Overbay LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast. With the New Year soon approaching, it’s time to talk habits! Inevitably millions of people will start to look at creating new habits, and breaking old ones and guest Abby Green has done all the research on habit formation so…
Episode 235 of Tony Overbay LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast "When You Feel Like You’re Trying More Than Your Spouse w/Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife (Plus When Narcissistic Traits Show Up in Marriage)" Relationship and sexuality expert Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-fife (http://finlayson-fife.com) returns for her 3rd time to the Virtual Couch! In today’s…
Episode 233 of Tony Overbay LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast. For most of us, when we think of our marital relationships our minds don’t immediately go to the second law of thermodynamics, or entropy, but according to some marriage researchers, there is definitely a correlation. According to Stephen F. Duncan,…
Episode 230 of Tony Overbay LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast - What if your thoughts, even ones that you previously considered to be negative, harmful, unproductive, or even toxic, when put into context weren’t the monsters that you have made them out to be? Welcome to the world of Functional…
We ALL have thoughts going through our minds consistently throughout the day. Some of those thoughts are funny, some are scary, some are full of hope, and others are completely inappropriate for the time and place (ever just wanted to start giggling at a completely somber event?). So why do…
Virtual Couch Episode 227 Hosted By Tony Overbay, LMFT - How can a couple rebuild trust in a marriage? Is gaslighting really as big of a problem as people make it out to be...come on, really? (See what I did there...I was gaslighting!!). And what if I honestly, truly, at…
Virtual Couch Podcast Episode 228 Hosted by Tony Overbay, LMFT - Do you always feel like you’re never going to get what you want? Do you continuously find yourself thinking, “I should have done that differently?” (Knowing that NOBODY likes to be “should on?”). Or have you ever found yourself…
Episode 221 of The Virtual Couch Podcast, hosted by Tony Overbay, LMFT. Tony tackles the topic of pornography today in a completely strength-based, hold-the-shame, become the person you always wanted to be way. He addresses the age-old question of whether or not pornography addiction is even a diagnosable condition...and better…
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Intro including a discussion about appearing on a national radio show to talk about pornography addiction runs up to 6:55 and then Tony gets to the article/topic about narcissistic abuse and the impact on the brain. Episode 221 of Tony Overbay LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast - It’s true that…