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Tony Overbay, LMFT, and host of The Virtual Couch Podcast (http://tonyoverbay.com) describes Functional Contextualism from Russ Harris' book ACT Made Simple. Imagine if we started the narrative with "you're not broken, you're human" instead of the ever-popular refrain of needing to fix your broken, problematic thinking? Functional Contextualism (FC) is…

Intro from 0:00 to 4:09 At 4:09 Tony begins talking about Richard Jerome's article. Tony Overbay LMFT's Virtual Couch Podcast Episode 220 - It's time to break some old habits and create some new ones...the good kind! Tony covers Richard Jerome's Realsimple.com article "Yes, You Can Kick That Bad Habit!"…

Episode 219 of Tony Overbay, LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast - Tony covers items 11 through 14 of his ever-growing list of “Everything I Know,” aka all of the things he’s learned from the therapist’s chair. In today’s episode he covers: If you’re going to say yes to someone, then…

Tony Overbay, LMFT, and host of The Virtual Couch Podcast discusses the difficulties in breaking free from a narcissist trauma bond. One of the biggest challenges in working with people who are trying to break free from the trauma bone or emotional grip of a narcissist is the fact that…

Tony Overbay, LMFT and host of The Virtual Couch Podcast explains why even our own brains can't be told what to do. The term "psychological reactance" is the instant negative reaction we all have when being told what to do. Psychologists believe that it is innate within us, that we…

Episode 218 to Tony Overbay LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast - Tony welcomes Julie Lee, author of “I See You” back to The Virtual Couch. Julie talks about the surprising series of events that led to the writing of her book, “I See You” and discussed the challenges of completing…

Episode 216 of Tony Overbay LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast - Tony covers 7 through 10 of his ever-growing list of “Everything I Know,” aka all of the things he’s learned from his therapist’s chair. In today’s episode he covers: Let’s assume that people don’t wake up and think “What…

I was.asked to answer questions specific to mental health for the young women of the Citrus Heights Stake. I am extremely grateful for the opportunity to share some of the knowledge that I have learned in my 15 years as a licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT). I have podcasts…

Tony covers items 1 through 6 of his ever-growing list of “Everything I Know,” aka all of the things he’s learned from his therapist’s chair. In today’s episode he covers: What if you’re NOT broken (ACT vs CBT), You’re the only version of YOU so far on the Earth (at…

Tony Overbay's The Virtual Couch Podcast Episode 214 - Don’t you know that breaking up, is, hard to do? Hopefully, you were singing that to the tune of the Neal Sedaka hit of the same name that was first released in 1960? And Sedaka wasn’t the first to use the…

Episode 213 of Tony Overbay, LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast - What do you say when somebody turns to you in their time of need? It may sound simple, but in reality, there’s a chance that your thoughts and phrases of support may leave someone feeling unheard and even more…

Episode 212 of Tony Overbay, LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast - Tony reviews the life-changing book The Body Keeps the Score, by Bessel van der Kolk M.D. https://amzn.to/2VUcMEd “Trauma is a fact of life…one in five Americans has been molested; one in four grew up with alcoholics; one in three…

Tony Overbay LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast Episode 211 - Anger, sadness, frustration, fear, loneliness…any one of these emotions can cause one to feel off their game to the point that they may start singing the familiar, yet destructive “what’s wrong with me?” tune. Even more profound is the old…

Tony Overbay LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast Episode 210 Is Your Mess Causing Your Stress? Take a quick look around your room, your office, or even your car. What do you see? Do you find yourself staring at the same piles of paper, or half-completed projects that you've been working…

Episode 209 of Tony Overbay LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast - For most of us, we will do almost anything to avoid drama, even to the detriment of our personal and professional relationships. Yet at times, even the most mindful person may find themselves feeling like a victim who has…

Episode 208 of Tony Overbay LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast - Right now we need to be able to listen, empathize and understand our brothers and sisters more than ever...but why can that be so difficult at times? Even when many people stop to listen, why do their brains immediately…

Episode 207 of Tony Overbay LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast, a special "BONUS episode." Tony replays an interview with his friend Charles Gazaway, also the long-time coach of his son Jake's AAU basketball team. This is AUDIO ONLY. Tony's original video interview without the updated intro is available at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O0fOAjYhxJw&t=1s…

Episode 206 of Tony Overbay, LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast - From her website, http://aboutprogress.com, Monica Packer is a recovering perfectionist, a podcaster, and a Progress Coach. She also has a very successful online program that helps people create their first podcast called Podcast U along with fellow Podcaster and…

Episode 205 of Tony Overbay, LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast. In the 1980s James Fowler, Professor of Theology and Human Development at Emory University and director of both the Center for Research on Faith and Moral Development and the Center for Ethics wrote a book called Stages of Faith. Fowler’s…

Tony Overbay LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast episode 204 - No one likes to feel bad...or sad, or afraid or anxious or uncertain, or so many other uncomfortable feelings. And what do you do when you start thinking unproductive thoughts? Sure, you can tell yourself to “just stop thinking about…

Tony Overbay LMFT's Virtual Couch Episode 203 - Attorney, and friend, Paul Hoybjerg joins Tony to talk about how we can better protect our children from sexual abuse. Paul is a partner in a Sacramento, California law firm who represents victims of sexual abuse, and negligence. Paul shares his story…

Do you ever feel like you’re simply not in control of your emotions? You’re not alone. At times we may feel like our emotions are charging forward like a 6-ton elephant! And we’re simply the rider, trying out best to guide or control the elephant but without much success. But…

Nate Bagley is a relationship researcher, and his goal is to rid the world of mediocre love. Nate’s work has been published by ABC, the Gottman Institue, The Good Men Project, Good Morning America, NBC, and more and with his latest project, The Epic Wives Experiment, he wants to help…

To celebrate the 200th episode of The Virtual Couch Podcast, former guest and author Joshua Shea (Tony's co-author of "He's a Porn Addict...Now What? An Expert and a Former Addict Answer Your Questions) interviews Virtual Couch podcast host Tony Overbay. Tony shares about a tragic accident shortly after high school…