Episode 188 of Tony Overbay, LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast - Simply put, psychological reactance is the instantaneous response that we have when we're told what to do. In business it is often called "change resistance" and in parenting, it's typically referred to as, well, "kids!" Reactance can also be…
Episode 186 of the Virtual Couch Podcast hosted by Tony Overbay, LMFT. Lora Abraham, LCSW and a former high school classmate of Tony's uses EMDR to treat clients who present with a variety of types of trauma. What is EMDR? From the EMDR Institute: EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing)…
Episode 183 of Tony Overbay's The Virtual Couch podcast. Plenty of well-meaning people in our lives try and motivate us by saying, "Just choose to be happy every day!" But why, then, isn't it that easy? Why when many people try and choose to be happy, do they actually end…
When Ginger Hahn, the founder of Ginger Elizabeth Chocolates' daughter was only 6 days old she had an intestinal bypass. According to Ginger, "It was the worst 2 weeks of my life in that hospital. Walking to the cafeteria every day I would walk past the oncology pediatrics wing at…
Episode 184 of Tony Overbay's The Virtual Couch Podcast. Many of us know what Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is, and we associate it with people who have come back from war, or who have experienced traumatic events, or accidents. Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder or C-PTSD is a type of PTSD…
Episode 182 of Tony Overbay, LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast. All or nothing...He’s ALWAYS late! She NEVER asks me about my day. The kids will absolutely never, ever, no matter what I say pick up after themselves (OK, that one might actually be true). Do you always find yourself using…
Episode 181 of Tony Overbay, LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast. In Dr. Steven Hayes’ book A Liberated Mind, How to Pivot Toward What Matters https://amzn.to/34w72BT Dr. Hayes shares some research that shows how quickly you can begin making progress using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). The study evaluated how ACT…
In episode 180 of Tony Overbay's The Virtual Couch Podcast, Tony interviews Dr. Shelly Hoover. Dr. Hoover is a wife, mother, grandmother, daughter, sister, and friend. She’s a veteran, author, educator, and advocate. It’s what she does. It’s who she is. In 2013, her neurologist told her that she only…
I recently had the privilege of being asked to be a part of the iBody panel held at Freeflow Academy in Rocklin, CA. The panel consisted of people who had incredible stories of hardship, addiction, struggle, acceptance, and survival. But these panelists not only survived, they learned to thrive, and…
Tony Overbay LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast Episode 178 available on Apple Podcasts, The Google Play Store, Spotify or wherever you listen to podcasts. Have you ever been scared by a friend? Chances are your first, or primary emotion, was fear! That's perfectly normal, after all, you're human. But what…
Tony Overbay, LMFTs Virtual Couch Podcast episode 176. In today's episode, Tony tackles the popular article "How Complaining Physically Rewires Your Brain To Be Anxious And Depressed," from the Daily Health Post https://dailyhealthpost.com/complaining-brain-negativity/ - Tony will be speaking in the Midvale North Stake on Sunday, January 26th in Midvale, UT.…
Episode 175 of Tony Overbay, LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast - Allison Carlson (IG: @allisonbailey1) is more than a social media content creator, aka an “influencer,” she is also a wife, a future doula, a woman who has suffered through multiple difficult miscarriages, a survivor of betrayal, anxiety, depression and…
It’s New Year’s Resolution time! Does setting resolutions, or even talking about resolutions, in general, bring feelings of fear, or excitement? In this episode, I weave acceptance and commitment therapy into 5 evidence-based ways to make your resolutions stick once and for all! Learn how your values must drive your…
Tony Overbay LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast episode 173 - Cha, Cha, Changes! The Transtheoretical, or Stages of Change Model, 6 Steps to Lasting Change! Tony talks stages of change using the Transtheoretical, or Stages of Change Model referencing an article by Kendra Cherry https://www.verywellmind.com/the-stages-of-change-2794868 Discover the 6 stages of…
Episode 172 of Tony Overbay, LMFT's The Virtual Couch podcast. In this episode, Tony shares his excitement over one of the founders of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Dr. Steven Hayes' new book A Liberated Mind, How to Pivot Toward What Matters https://amzn.to/34w72BT Tony reviews Dr. Hayes 6 key "pivots" of…
Virtual Couch Podcast Episode 171 - Part 3 of 2 of Tony Overbay, LMFT's discussion of his ADHD (ADD inattentive type) diagnosis. In this episode, Tony goes more into some of the diagnostic criteria including a couple of lists of behaviors often associated with ADD-like symptoms (trust me, it's more…
Tony Overbay LMFT's "The Virtual Couch Podcast" Episode 170 "Tony Overbay and Joshua Shea Co-Authors of "He's a Porn Addict...Now What? An Expert and a Former Addict Answer Your Questions." Tony Overbay, LMFT interviews Joshua Shea about their newly released book "He's a Porn Addict...Now What? An Expert and a…
Tony Overbay, LMFT's Virtual Couch podcast episode 169. Wait! Don't skip this episode! I know if you're a podcast listener you've no doubt heard therapist and life coach alike gush about the benefits of mindfulness, about meditation, about being present. Well, what does that actually mean? What's the science behind…
Tony Overbay, LMFT, and co-author of the new book "He's a Porn Addict...Now What? An Expert and a Former Addict Answer Your Questions" answers the first question in the book, "How do I know if he's actually an addict?" Tony reads both his answer as well as co-author and former…
In today's episode of Tony Overbay LMFT's podcast, The Virtual Couch (http://virtualcouch.xyz), Tony takes a deep dive into the article "How the Narcissistic Trauma Bond Ensnares" by Christine Hammond, MS, LMHC. Christine is a two-time former Virtual Couch podcast guest, and host of the popular, and informative podcast "Understanding Today's…
Episode 167 of Tony Overbay, LMFT's Virtual Couch Podcast. Learn tangible, positive ways to help you take control of your parenting today! In this solo episode, Tony Overbay, LMFT, goes into detail, with personal examples, of how to actually implement the Nurtured Heart Parenting approach with your small, or teenage…
Episode 166 of Tony Overbay's The Virtual Couch Podcast. Guest Rachel Nielson, the host of the popular podcast 3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms (http://3in30podcast.com) makes a return visit to The Virtual Couch to discuss the challenges of finding the right therapist for you, and/or your kids. Rachel talks about…
Episode 165 of Tony Overbay, LMFT's "The Virtual Couch Podcast." One of the requests that I receive the most is to do an episode on psychopaths vs. sociopaths or narcissists. In this episode, I cover all three, including a fascinating article in The Atlantic, "Life as a Nonviolent Psychopath" https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/01/life-as-a-nonviolent-psychopath/282271/…
Episode 164 of Tony Overbay LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast. One of the most unproductive phrases Tony hears in couples counseling is “I’m just playing Devil’s advocate?” Are you? Or are you trying to poke holes in your partner’s reality? Only the “devil” in this scenario truly knows, but regardless,…