Episode 303 of Tony Overbay LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast - Over time, many couples find themselves in a familiar pursue/withdrawal relationship. One partner may feel like they are doing everything in the relationship only at the expense of getting their own validation or needs met. Still, their partner often…
Tony interviews award-winning author and podcast host Suzanne Falter. They discuss the importance of self-care and the touching story of Suzanne's daughter Teal who passed away unexpectedly at a very young age. Teal shared some very powerful advice for how to make the most of life that continues to guide…
Episode 13 of Tony Overbay LMFT's "Waking up to Narcissism" podcast. Tony turns to his online group and asks for examples of what gift-giving looks like in a narcissistic relationship. He also tackles an email from someone waking up to their own narcissistic traits and tendencies. He also talks briefly…
Audio only for episode 7 of the Waking Up to Narcissism Podcast by Tony Overbay LMFT. Narcissistic tendencies or traits can come in many different forms and levels of severity, while as a mental health condition, there is currently only one diagnosis. Tony tackles the question of whether or not…
Episode 294 of Tony Overbay LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast. Tony explores why where the need for external validation comes from. Why do we care what others think? And why the need for external validation is the opposite thing to do for self-confidence and to feel connected to others. Introducing…
Episode 293 of Tony Overbay LMFT's The Virtual Couch podcast. Each of us is a unique mixture of life experiences, and we bring all of those experiences into our conversations with others. In today's episode, Tony explores the role of context in conversations. Tony shares an example of how one…
Procrastination creates a pretty fascinating feedback loop. For many of us, we procrastinate until a deadline, and then we perform. We may not be happy with our performance, but this pattern repeats itself over time until it's what we do! We receive a deadline of Friday at 5 PM and…
Narcissistic tendencies or traits can come in many different forms and levels of severity, while as a mental health condition, there is currently only one diagnosis. Tony tackles the question of whether or not we use the label of narcissism too broadly, and if we spoke more about what narcissistic…
Despite what you hear from the self-help world change takes time, so it is important to give yourself a little more grace. If beating yourself up was the key to success, then we'd all already be perfect! Tony shares his secrets on how to become unstuck, and why we continually…
Episode 287 of Tony Overbay LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast - Tony describes in detail how his "4 Pillars of a Connected Conversation" works, including how to apply the 4 Pillars in any conversation where you feel stuck, unheard, unseen, or unloved. The 4 Pillars are: 1) Assuming good intentions,…
Tony Overbay LMFT's Virtual Couch Episode 284. Tony welcomes his daughter McKinley (Mackie) back to The Virtual Couch. Mackie talks about what it took for her to shed the “shoulds” in her life, “you should go to college, you should be a teacher, you should, you should, you should!” and…
If you want to know what you need to do with your life, ask somebody close to you. Chances are they'll immediately have an opinion. But when they do share what they think YOU need to do with YOUR life, why do you immediately think of doing the opposite? Better…
Tony welcomes Magnetic Marriage co-creator Preston Pugmire, host of the Next Level Life Podcast, and award-winning life coach, onto the show to talk about the steps of accountability, and how moving from an unconscious reactor to a conscious creator will have immediate and long-lasting positive effects on everything in your…
Here's what my ADHD looks like during a simple trip to get a sandwich. The struggle is...wait, are those chips?
Episode 276 of Tony Overbay, LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast. Tony talks about the mental health and life lessons learned on a recent trip to Disneyland, including the brain’s fascination with anticipation vs. reward, the psychological importance of nostalgia, the “Coolidge Effect,”; how to “let go and play” (http://playtheory.org). Plus,…
Episode 275 of Tony Overbay LMFT's The VIrtual Couch Podcast - What do you do with those pesky unwanted, irrational, and sometimes downright inappropriate or scary thoughts? Hint - trying to stop them, push them away, or change them can often make them even stronger. Tony shares the "numbers" metaphor…
Tony Overbay, LMFT, and host of The Virtual Couch Podcast, describes the "person in a hole" metaphor. In the metaphor, you learn that sometimes, it doesn't matter how hard you try; if you're using the wrong tool in certain situations, you can actually make things worse! Learn more about Tony's…
Episode 266 of Tony Overbay LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast - Do you often find yourself feeling emotionally invested in other people, movies, and TV shows? Do you feel like you take on the emotional state of those around you? Have you been told repeatedly to “just get over it”…
Tony Overbay LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast Episode 261 - Everything you ever wanted to know about kindness can be learned from...rabbits. In today’s episode, Tony talks about kindness, and how Dr. Robert Nerem stumbled upon a most unusual example of how both our emotional and physical health can be…
Episode 254 of Tony Overbay LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast. Tony shares the foundational principles of Dr. Sue Johnson's Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT/EFCT) from her book "Hold Me Tight." Tony referenced a review from Dan's blog "A Laughing Soul" (https://alaughingsoul.wordpress.com/2012/04/24/hold-me-tight-seven-conversations-for-a-lifetime-of-love/). From the blog, what is EFT? What Is Emotionally…
Tony Overbay LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast Episode 253 - If You've EVER Been Angry This Episode Is For YOU! We all get angry, but what do you do with that anger? Is it healthy to express your anger? If so, in what way? Should you punch a pillow or…
Episode 252 of Tony Overbay, LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast - What impedes progress more...physical clutter or emotional clutter? Or is the answer “C, all of the above?” Tony interviews Anna, a professional home organizer and the owner of NEAT Method in Boise, ID. They talk about how organization can…
Episode 251 of Tony Overbay LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast. Do you ever find yourself caught up in emotions so fast that you feel like you can’t think logically? Well, the good news is, you’re human! For most of us, we formed much of our internal compass from our family,…
Episode 250 of Tony Overbay, LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast. In this episode, Tony tackles the touchy topic of anxiety and gives tips on what to do when you're feeling anxious. This episode of The Virtual Couch is sponsored by http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch With the continuing “sheltering” rules that are spreading across…