Tony Overbay, LMFT and host of the Waking up to Narcissism and Virtual Couch podcasts, discusses the role of "implicit" memory when waking up to the emotional immaturity, or narcissism, in your relationships. One of the first questions he is asked is, "what do I do now that I am…
Episode 332 of Tony Overbay, LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast - Tony talks about his "aha" moment when attending a wedding over the past weekend of why marriages begin with a lot of pressure and unrealized expectations that originate from each person's family history. Then he shares Russ Harris's 4…
Episode 331 of Tony Overbay LMFT’s The Virtual Couch Podcast - Does it really matter what you do throughout the day concerning your mental health? Tony tackles the impact of implicit memory and how the "flow of experience gradually sculpts your brain, thus shaping your mind" from the book "Buddha's…
Episode 37 of the Waking Up to Narcissism Podcast by Tony Overbay, LMFT. Explaining your relationship to the narcissist or emotionally immature person, people, or entity in your life to those around you can be incredibly validating when it's met with empathy, curiosity, and understanding. But, when you open up…
A clip from Episode 38 of Tony Overbay, LMFT's "Waking up to Narcissism" podcast. In this Q & A episode, Tony was answering a question about someone re-entering the dating world. The person asking the question was concerned that their "picker" was broken, and they asked the question of how…
Tony Overbay LMFT's Virtual Couch Podcast Episode 327 - Creating Intimacy vs. Seeking Validation in Marriage, Exploring our “Shadows” and Narcissism or Emotional Immaturity w/ Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife. Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife makes her 4th appearance on the Virtual Couch podcast! Tony and Jennifer discuss the difference between coaching and therapy.…
Tony Overbay, LMFT asks Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife the differences between doing traditional psychotherapy with clients vs. "Coaching" aka "Life Coaching" people. Dr. Finlayson-Fife recently launched a successful subscription-based podcast "Room for Two" where she leads couples through "Sex and Intimacy Coaching." You can learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife, including her…
As a practicing therapist, I just have to say that AJR gets it! I feel like I hear phrases, and questions from the lyrics of "Karma" on a daily basis in my office. Especially "I'm not sure why I booked today's appointment," (give us about 5 minutes and we'll find…
Tony Overbay, LMFT discusses Amy Morin, LCSW's article "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do." https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/what-mentally-strong-people-dont-do/201501/13-things-mentally-strong-people-dont-do Go to http://tonyoverbay.com/workshop to sign up for Tony’s “Magnetize Your Marriage” virtual workshop. The cost is only $19. You’ll learn the top 3 things you can do NOW to create a Magnetic Marriage. You…
From the Virtual Couch Podcast episode 326 Tony Overbay, LMFT shares his challenge in not repeating the same mistakes while acknowledging the challenges of ADHD. Tony talks about his experiences working with clients who embrace, or shy away from labels, and what he has done in embracing the label that…
Virtual Couch Podcast Episode 325 - Sometimes we don't realize how childhood trauma can show up in adulthood. Even the most supportive parents often tell children "not to worry about it," or "they didn't mean it," or "it's not that big of a deal." So it's not surprising that it…
The brain is a don't get killed device! There is a very good chance that there are people that you interact with on a daily basis who are beginning to or are already experiencing serious suicidal thoughts and ideations. But I believe if we are more aware of some of…
Faith Transition, Spiritual Trauma & Mental Health, An Evolving Conversation - By Tony Overbay, LMFT. Recorded May 3, 2021, in Salt Lake City, UT at the Generations Mental Health Conference 2021. Tony shares information on how to navigate a faith crisis using James Fowler's Stages of Faith, principles of Acceptance…
After working with well over 1,000 couples as a marriage therapist, Tony Overbay, LMFT, gives his top 11 tips to a happier marriage. If you are interested in learning more about the 4th round of Tony's "Magnetic Marriage" course, please visit http://tonyoverbay.com and send him an email through the contact…
Episode 303 of Tony Overbay LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast - Over time, many couples find themselves in a familiar pursue/withdrawal relationship. One partner may feel like they are doing everything in the relationship only at the expense of getting their own validation or needs met. Still, their partner often…
Tony interviews award-winning author and podcast host Suzanne Falter. They discuss the importance of self-care and the touching story of Suzanne's daughter Teal who passed away unexpectedly at a very young age. Teal shared some very powerful advice for how to make the most of life that continues to guide…
Episode 13 of Tony Overbay LMFT's "Waking up to Narcissism" podcast. Tony turns to his online group and asks for examples of what gift-giving looks like in a narcissistic relationship. He also tackles an email from someone waking up to their own narcissistic traits and tendencies. He also talks briefly…
Audio only for episode 7 of the Waking Up to Narcissism Podcast by Tony Overbay LMFT. Narcissistic tendencies or traits can come in many different forms and levels of severity, while as a mental health condition, there is currently only one diagnosis. Tony tackles the question of whether or not…
Episode 294 of Tony Overbay LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast. Tony explores why where the need for external validation comes from. Why do we care what others think? And why the need for external validation is the opposite thing to do for self-confidence and to feel connected to others. Introducing…
Episode 293 of Tony Overbay LMFT's The Virtual Couch podcast. Each of us is a unique mixture of life experiences, and we bring all of those experiences into our conversations with others. In today's episode, Tony explores the role of context in conversations. Tony shares an example of how one…
Procrastination creates a pretty fascinating feedback loop. For many of us, we procrastinate until a deadline, and then we perform. We may not be happy with our performance, but this pattern repeats itself over time until it's what we do! We receive a deadline of Friday at 5 PM and…
Narcissistic tendencies or traits can come in many different forms and levels of severity, while as a mental health condition, there is currently only one diagnosis. Tony tackles the question of whether or not we use the label of narcissism too broadly, and if we spoke more about what narcissistic…
Despite what you hear from the self-help world change takes time, so it is important to give yourself a little more grace. If beating yourself up was the key to success, then we'd all already be perfect! Tony shares his secrets on how to become unstuck, and why we continually…
Episode 287 of Tony Overbay LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast - Tony describes in detail how his "4 Pillars of a Connected Conversation" works, including how to apply the 4 Pillars in any conversation where you feel stuck, unheard, unseen, or unloved. The 4 Pillars are: 1) Assuming good intentions,…